I think the answer is really quite simple. As a once strong hetero white male who pretty much had a magnificent and well-adjusted upbringing. Perfect parents, perfect vacations, and star of my junior high school and high school football teams. Popular and seldom if ever was told no, treated unfairly was always the first one to be picked, or to be let off when I had done something wrong or illegal. I had everything so our attraction is fulfilling the Yang in our yin and yang. As predominant heirs to all that is a successful life we like to see what it feels like to be the weaker culture. To experience life as it would be like as a black but knowing we have the safety of always being white. Part of this transition is taking on a feminine role as well. Putting the two together is just fun. But seeing what we do on our own time can always be undone in our real lives. We don't have to stay fem or beta because in the real world we most likely are the bosses of these various BBC studs and we won't give that up either. Except I did the moment I took my first BBC. I was changed forever not caring any longer about being a gurly boi or about everyone knowing I was a black mans hole. To be used as needed. I love it