For me, my wife DeeAnna was seduced by a younger black man when we were in our mid 40s. It wasn't really a matter of giving her away. DeeAnna and I were separated at the time of her seduction and when we got back together she said that she had started "dating" a black man, which really didn't phase me much, since we were separated. Her next statement, however, left me speechless: "I'm not willing to give that up." It was pretty clear to me that the sex had been better than anything we ever had, and If I didn't agree to let her keep seeing him, I might lose her.