When my wife took her first boy friend 3 years after we were married, we didn't plan on him getting her pregnant. We never talked about it, but we were both very happy about it. Her second boyfriend would introduce my wife to his friends as his mistress, so that they all new she was married. I eventually met some of them. Her 3rd boyfriend lived across the street, and the neighbors all knew about it. I had to tell the next door neighbor lady that I had a "problem" hoping to cover for my wife, but the neighbor pushed for more info, so I finally told her stumbling with my words for a while as she encouraged me, pushing for me to tell her. I finally admitted that I was too small to satisfy my wife. She consoled me and told me it was ok. She admitted that she too was seeing another man because her husband wasn't satisfying her.