Let’s be honest about a few things. Regardless of the reason, if he is putting the chastity device on at all, it is a pretty clear sign that he is a beta. Does that mean he is not worth dating? No, it just means that you “perceive” them differently in regards to certain aspects of your relationship as opposed to how you would perceive someone who isn’t a beta—and that’s fine. But there probably still needs to be a clear and defining line and understanding where the boundaries are.
We are not saying that sex with a beta is inherently “bad” but rather, it’s unnecessary, “unfulfilling”, and (if being honest with yourself as their partner) it’s not at the top of your priority list—if even on it all. Again, not because betas are “bad”, but because the cage sets a literal boundary that honestly does not need to be crossed. Otherwise, it would have been crossed a long time ago. Also, it is highly argued that if a cage is put on at all – regardless of the reason – it shows by “default” that he is not “meant” to have sex. Otherwise, why would he put something over his penis that inhibits the ability to have sex in the first place? Those last two statements are widely accepted as one of the main reasons why betas should not have sex, or remain virgins, and/or locked in chastity.
As talked about in the first “Staying a virgin” post, there are women who still have some form of penetration with chastity-betas. However, those interactions eventually do stop, because the women always realize there is a better solution to having their needs met—ie. Cuckolding, or the beta giving her oral, or both. Typically speaking though, most women in a relationship with a chastity-beta find it very endearing and very sweet that their SO is locked. And many of these women like (or love) the idea of their SO’s penis shrinking down to as small as possible. Regardless of the reasons a woman loves the idea of chastity is also the same reason why she will often desire that sex with their beta-counterpart be off-limits, and permanent chastity be “the norm” within the relationship.
In some ways, you can kind of view “chastity-based relationships” almost like you would a platonic friend-zone relationship; but in a different way. The boundaries set act as a constant “steadiness” (if you will) within the relationship. Otherwise, if these boundaries are crossed in any way, for any reason, it completely changes the dynamic and harmony of the over-all relationship and in some ways diminishes or harms the relationship in the long-run. Essentially, the friendship in a chastity relationship is more important than the actual sex, or sexual aspect, that could or would be had otherwise.
Some women draw the line at no sex between her and the beta, while other say no sex and not watching. Others may say no sex, no watching, and no masturbating. Some even say no sex, no watching, no masturbating, and no receiving oral from the beta. And then there are those who say no sex, no watching, no masturbating, and no receiving oral from the beta, and no to the beta seeing her naked, or limiting to how often the beta sees her naked. Different boundaries are set for different reasons, and all of these different boundaries are based on several different factors.
Also, sex and being a virgin is subjective to some degree. A man’s penis does not have to enter a girl in order for it to be considered sex. Especially considering certain circumstances. If he is locked in chastity and his penis is small and he can orgasm via very light stimulation, or a vibrator on his cage, then in a very real way, that is his version of sex. Otherwise, actual penetration would be far too much for him to handle. So, even though he may not actually experience the physical act of penetrating a woman, the nature of sex is still present and the feelings of sex are still present even while locked in chastity. Then let’s add in that many chastity-betas use toys on their SO or give their SO oral. Both of these interactions certainly could/would count as actual sex due to the aforementioned explanations.
Any man who has “finds” himself to be a beta and/or locked in chastity will probably find himself having more questions, than there are answers. But that doesn't mean he should be embarrassed about where he is. Why should he be? There is literally nothing wrong with being a virgin, a beta, or locked in chastity. Just as people are on different levels in regards to physical fitness, there are different levels to where people are within the realm(s) or sex and intimacy. And being a virgin, and/or a beta, and/or locked in chastity is just simply where he is.
And at the end of the day, does it really matter all that much for him to “know” first-hand what sex or “making-love” feels like? Him being locked, or essentially being locked for/because you and your relationship is probably the sweetest act of romance, or love, any guy could do for you, even if it does change certain aspects within the relationship. Is it really worth giving all of that up, just for him to know what it feels like to essentially get his dick wet? Chastity exists for a reason, which is why there are so many guys who are locked, virgins, and/or shrunk down in size—because that’s more or less where they are meant to be. Sex isn’t meant for everyone, and there’s literally nothing wrong with that. He’s not “missing out” just because he doesn’t know what it directly feels like. He’s just experiencing it all from a different perspective.
We are not saying that sex with a beta is inherently “bad” but rather, it’s unnecessary, “unfulfilling”, and (if being honest with yourself as their partner) it’s not at the top of your priority list—if even on it all. Again, not because betas are “bad”, but because the cage sets a literal boundary that honestly does not need to be crossed. Otherwise, it would have been crossed a long time ago. Also, it is highly argued that if a cage is put on at all – regardless of the reason – it shows by “default” that he is not “meant” to have sex. Otherwise, why would he put something over his penis that inhibits the ability to have sex in the first place? Those last two statements are widely accepted as one of the main reasons why betas should not have sex, or remain virgins, and/or locked in chastity.
As talked about in the first “Staying a virgin” post, there are women who still have some form of penetration with chastity-betas. However, those interactions eventually do stop, because the women always realize there is a better solution to having their needs met—ie. Cuckolding, or the beta giving her oral, or both. Typically speaking though, most women in a relationship with a chastity-beta find it very endearing and very sweet that their SO is locked. And many of these women like (or love) the idea of their SO’s penis shrinking down to as small as possible. Regardless of the reasons a woman loves the idea of chastity is also the same reason why she will often desire that sex with their beta-counterpart be off-limits, and permanent chastity be “the norm” within the relationship.
In some ways, you can kind of view “chastity-based relationships” almost like you would a platonic friend-zone relationship; but in a different way. The boundaries set act as a constant “steadiness” (if you will) within the relationship. Otherwise, if these boundaries are crossed in any way, for any reason, it completely changes the dynamic and harmony of the over-all relationship and in some ways diminishes or harms the relationship in the long-run. Essentially, the friendship in a chastity relationship is more important than the actual sex, or sexual aspect, that could or would be had otherwise.
Some women draw the line at no sex between her and the beta, while other say no sex and not watching. Others may say no sex, no watching, and no masturbating. Some even say no sex, no watching, no masturbating, and no receiving oral from the beta. And then there are those who say no sex, no watching, no masturbating, and no receiving oral from the beta, and no to the beta seeing her naked, or limiting to how often the beta sees her naked. Different boundaries are set for different reasons, and all of these different boundaries are based on several different factors.
- Was the beta locked before you even started dating?
- Is he a virgin?
- Are you cuckolding him?
- What type of cuckolding are you doing?
- Are you seeing someone long-term and are there emotions involved?
- Are you seeing various people as a 1-time thing each time?
- Are you seeing a set number of other people and cycling through them?
Also, sex and being a virgin is subjective to some degree. A man’s penis does not have to enter a girl in order for it to be considered sex. Especially considering certain circumstances. If he is locked in chastity and his penis is small and he can orgasm via very light stimulation, or a vibrator on his cage, then in a very real way, that is his version of sex. Otherwise, actual penetration would be far too much for him to handle. So, even though he may not actually experience the physical act of penetrating a woman, the nature of sex is still present and the feelings of sex are still present even while locked in chastity. Then let’s add in that many chastity-betas use toys on their SO or give their SO oral. Both of these interactions certainly could/would count as actual sex due to the aforementioned explanations.
Any man who has “finds” himself to be a beta and/or locked in chastity will probably find himself having more questions, than there are answers. But that doesn't mean he should be embarrassed about where he is. Why should he be? There is literally nothing wrong with being a virgin, a beta, or locked in chastity. Just as people are on different levels in regards to physical fitness, there are different levels to where people are within the realm(s) or sex and intimacy. And being a virgin, and/or a beta, and/or locked in chastity is just simply where he is.
And at the end of the day, does it really matter all that much for him to “know” first-hand what sex or “making-love” feels like? Him being locked, or essentially being locked for/because you and your relationship is probably the sweetest act of romance, or love, any guy could do for you, even if it does change certain aspects within the relationship. Is it really worth giving all of that up, just for him to know what it feels like to essentially get his dick wet? Chastity exists for a reason, which is why there are so many guys who are locked, virgins, and/or shrunk down in size—because that’s more or less where they are meant to be. Sex isn’t meant for everyone, and there’s literally nothing wrong with that. He’s not “missing out” just because he doesn’t know what it directly feels like. He’s just experiencing it all from a different perspective.
