Rise of the dominant woman (little bit of everything discussion)

[Lutheran Maid]

Not a story this time, but a discussion offering. I wanted to offer a few points about changing circumstances for women and the potential benefits as regards the dominance/submission dimension of sex. My argument is that this dimension has for too long been ignored, sniggered at, considered a perversion rather than a normal aspect of sexuality. We've achieved equality as regards sexual partner preference (straight, gay, bi) but now its time to recognise this dimension of sexuality too, and yes, to celebrate it!

Much of what has hindered the expression in the past has concerned how women have been socialised. Its simply not nice for us to dominate men. Its unfeminine to treat some men as inferior. We've been made the guardians of manners! But I do sense the wind of change. Here are some pointers that I think suggest change is underway.

1. The rise in different forms of female power. True there are deficits in the boardroom and some areas where progress has been slower, but there is now a growth in the incidence of women out earning their husbands and having charge of the lifestyle that goes with that. Nothing changes the marital psychology like a shift in power. Men are slowly beginning to do more chores, to raise kids more, and that does mean that women are free to live and love in more expressive, self aware ways.

2. A quiet acceptance that women have affairs as much as men (well, there is one per cent difference in the UK today, 20% of married men have had an affair and 19% of married women). Once upon a time it was a heinous crime for a woman to have an affair, but a jack the lad smacked wrist for the men. Now we are having affairs as often as the men and for broadly similar reasons. We don't have to justify straying on grounds of emotional coldness in a partner, we can want and have sex because we are bored with a man, consider ourselves better than what they offer. Don't get me wrong about this, I'm not advocating run amok sex with all and sundry, nasty diseases exist, but I am arguing that we deserve to have sexually fulfilling lives alongside, if not within a marriage. Men can be mature enough to know that they are nice but not enough. We are emotionally mature enough to signal that want we share elsewhere doesn't preclude something less left for the husband. Lifestyle accommodations can be reached.

3. Slowly changing psychology about a woman's mind. The arts, media, drama has rarely dared to portray women enjoying power, seeking sexual gratification and enjoying humiliating a man. Past portrayals had 'baddie' women portrayed as sexy (always in black) but ultimately, always defeated for the wrong moral thought. You can wear Prada and use your sex appeal openly, women do in life anyway, despite the protests of the restrictive wing of feminism. 'The Handmaiden's Tale' portray sex in quite a raw state and yes there are women directing requirements. It's a dystopia, but it shadows real life where women have sometimes cuckolded a man and had him raise her lover's child. Personally, I'm fed up with the equation that bitch is always bad. There's always been men who need to be bitched and our stepping out of the shadows acknowledges that male need too. Imagine more wives this way. More cock cages, more humiliation, more men feeling that they stumble in a primordial race for our attention. Much of what I write ('Another Kind of Bitch' Amazon) is about that, what minds in concert produce.

Hmmmn. I wonder what people think?

 

[CumSlurpingCuckold]

The social stigma you describe hindering a woman's full spectrum of sexuality applies equally to the male. There is no reason for cock cages and kinky humiliation techniques, etc, when some males simply acknowledge that they are sexually second best.

"Lead, follow or get out of the way..." Its a common saying, but ironically in our democratic societies, we've somehow gotten under the impression that we're all top shit, we're all supposed to be leaders, and nothing else is worthwhile. Thats just incorrect.

Things are much the same in the bedroom... everyone is hyped up on commercial images of what they believe they should be... And its easiest to sell things to someone who believes they're in an executive position.

Sexually, I don't feel comfortable in that executive position. I was taught to feel possessive and jealous in the past, but don't really feel those are a natural expression of who I am.

I'm a natural born cuckold, and I don't need a cock cage or whatever to prove it. I get performance anxiety and would rather just let a real man lead. I'll follow. I'll taste. I'll do anything I can to help. Just don't push me out of the way.

 

[Lutheran Maid]

Also, I'd been meaning to comment on your usage of the word 'bitch..' I know it started out being an insult directed primarily at aggressive, impudent women, comparing them to the female dog.

I understand how you're using the word, but it doesn't have the same connotation to most people, I think. In America, especially, the word is much more poignantly used to describe a white boy such as myself that sucks on Black cock. Calling women bitches, to me, reminds me of like the 1980's. Nowadays, its most powerful use applies to the cuckold cock sucker.

But I listen to a lot of underground hip hop, and the word to me definitely applies to both sexes, more so to men for being pussies, sissies, cucks, etc.

Fair points I think! Bitch is a culturally slanted word, use differently in the States to the UK. The cock cage is certainly a talking point. They clearly don't stop orgasms, although the ruined version is obviously a draw for hard nosed women who like to think about that frustration. I guess that the cage is as exciting for the woman has it can be for some men. Its a symbolic control, one that humiliates. But you'e perfectly right to say that one isn't required by the naturally submissive second rate male. He is a cuckold in the head from the off. I wonder though whether there are men out there who are curious about their status. They may feel losers in society as regards how men 'should' be, but that may not yet have translated into sexual inferiority as well. The cage can be a try it and see aid, something for the man to feel submissive in and the woman to feel dominant about? BW Lutheran

 

[AlfonsoAnon]

The recent shifts seem very dramatic because the gap was very large to begin with.

Parity is a long way off, let alone a reversal.

 

[Lutheran Maid]

Oh, I'd give it a try, but I have erection and orgasm problems anyway, just in my late thirties.... A lot of men do too, tbh. But, I think thats the problem. Men aren't honest with themselves enough, much less with their partners. So many try to be Alpha, when they know they're something so much less. Everyone makes up for it in their own way. One of my neighbors drives a huge diesel four door truck to McDonalds to get fatter every morning, and I can feel the earth vibrate. You know he's a limp dicklette Beta for sure, but he's making that truck payment and acting macho, the same as others buy Viagra or don a cock cage.

For me, I think the ultimate humiliation for a Beta limp dick like me, is to actually get hard watching the Bull do what I can't because of performance anxiety and masturbation addiction. Helplessly looking on as my dick gets hard and someone else fucks her.

"Look baby! No hands! It just got hard!"

"Ugh, whatever, show me later."

I'm intrigued by the idea of pretence in your post. I wonder just how big that pretence is, how common it is? I suspect that a lot of men live a lie, and pretend to be something more than they are. Just as women have been encouraged to be submissive, non aggressive as regards power and sex, so men have been encouraged to be macho. Yet the circumstances of a modern society call for less and less of that. Much of the earning power today is associated with brains and not brawn and we have as much if not more of that than men. Opportunities come the way of the more attractive and women have the advantage there too. We dress better than most men, have a greater of variety of things to wear and can, if so inclined, use sexy dressing to influence things markedly. If men are living a pretence, if they are less and less powerful, needed than they once were then society will (I think) find means slowly, subtly to relieve them of their status. Let us call them games and toys, but let us acknowledge too that things like a cock cage is too....a rehearsal! Lutheran!

 

[Lutheran Maid]

The recent shifts seem very dramatic because the gap was very large to begin with.

Parity is a long way off, let alone a reversal.

It's important to reassure Alfonso, whispered softly to oneself in the dark of night, when all else seems quietly, unspoken unsure. ;-) Lutheran