Hello everyone,
I'm in my late 30s, married and live pussyfree with exceptions. Until a few years ago, I never thought I would ever be able to live pussyfree or even start to like it. I'll tell you something about my sexual career and how it gradually led to my pussyfree life.
In general, I have always really enjoyed having sex. I wanted to do it every day, preferably several times if possible. Unfortunately, the women didn't want sex as often as I did. For this reason began to marturbate daily. Not just about porn, actually also in the classic way through hot thoughts and scenarios that I imagined.
I discovered, I suspected it before but couldn't put it into words, that I have a foot fetish. My thoughts about sex often no longer just revolved around the penetrative act but rather about interacting with a woman's feet. Nevertheless, I still wanted sex and wanted to ejaculate inside a woman.
I had a total of four girlfriends before I married my current wife. In retrospect it turned out that my four girlfriends, I'll talk about my wife later, probably didn't have a fulfilling sex life with me. But I myself was satisfied and thought that I was a good lover who could really please a woman in bed.
All four of my friends either mentioned that their ex-boyfriends were better hung or that my penis was fine but seemed a little smaller than average. Never expressed in a hurtful tone, but still somehow a little disappointed. So a lot of sex quickly turned into very little sex. Headaches, stomach aches, too much stress, at some point there were noticeably frequent excuses as to why the four friends didn't want to have sex.
A friend of mine also cheated on me at least twice and had sex with a strange man. The same girlfriend who had been having sex with me for a long time but didn't feel like having sex. It was only years after I was married to my wife that I gradually realized the reason or reasons.
I have been married to my wife for more than 10 years. She is very sweet, but knows what she wants and what she doesn't want and can now communicate that very well. In the beginning, like every couple, we had sex several times a week. This was standard but it was enough. Over the years we opened up more and more and also talked about other sexual preferences.
If you really think about it, I just opened myself up. My wife doesn't have any special fetishes. I love that I adore her feet so much, that's it. She probably only likes standard, at least with me. Standard is normal vaginal sex and oral sex.
I, on the other hand, confessed to her more and more over the course of our relationship. At the beginning it was very difficult for me to talk about my fetishes. But my wife has gradually taken away my fears about this. I know that she can separate the normal part of me from the sexual part of me and not judge me.
What my wife knows about me sexually is a lot and also unusual. We talked a lot, I showed her pictures and videos. She may not know every nuance and depth, but she reveals more than I ever thought I would reveal.
An excerpt:
* She knows that I have strong cuckold desires
* She knows that I like to wear women's underwear
* She knows that I find penises extremely arousing
* She knows that I find interracial sex, big black cocks, absolutely hot
* She knows that feet are my favorite part of a woman's body
* She knows that I am very sexually submissive
* She knows that I like golden showers
* She knows that I like to penetrate shoes
* She knows that I...
When my wife and I had sex less and less after 1-2 years of relationship, at first only several times a month, later only several times a year, I didn't think anything of it. I thought it was a normal development, you read it every now and then. But that wasn't enough for me and so I often asked my wife about sex. We had a lot of arguments about it for years.
When I knew my wife wouldn't feel like having sex today, I masturbated. I saw this as a good option to not burden her with my sex drive even though I just wanted something natural. As a result, the disputes became few, but they remain. Until she said something to me a few years ago.
We often talked about the reason for not having enough sex, but we never managed to find a common reason. We blamed it on the pill, we blamed it on previous events with her, we blamed it on stress for her. But we never blamed it on me. Until she told me that she just didn't really feel my penis.
I paused for a moment and thought she was just teasing me. But she was serious, she said that she doesn't feel my penetration. She knows there is something inside her but it doesn't trigger any excitement in her. That was quite a slap in the face, I had a pretty big ego sexually. I had four friends who never said sex was bad, but at some point they just didn't want that much anymore.
Unfortunately, that wasn't the only thing. She also told me that I also ejaculate too quickly. To be honest, I never paid attention to it and thought my time was normal. We talked really deeply about it, including how she didn't want to hurt my feelings and she really thought it was her. I didn't really want to believe that, even though I somehow knew that we had now found the reason(s) for the rare sex.
She told me that I was the only man with whom she felt little or nothing during vaginal sex. She never had any problems with vaginal orgasms before me and she always felt the penetration intensely. She also has no problems with sex toys that she inserts into herself.
That was really hard to hear. But it was just as hard to hear when it came to the length of sex. She sometimes counted or looked at the clock before and after. For years, sex never lasted more than a minute. It doesn't matter how we have sex. Even though it was cruel to hear in the moment, it was honest.
But there was an advantage in the matter as to why I didn't fall into a deep depression. This advantage was my submissive tendencies. After the conversation, I asked reputable sites what could be done better in such a situation. I also read tons of reports from other men, women and couples.
Something has also changed in my porn consumption. Before that I only looked at captions about my fetishes. I always skipped SPH caps, I didn't identify with them and couldn't do anything with them despite my submissive tendencies. Out of curiosity, I started looking at SPH captions.
The more I looked at it and realized that the penises there were often my size, the more my mind jumped. I imagined other women, my wife, would say these words to me. It started to excite me. However, I was still looking for solutions to be able to have more sex with my wife again.
My wife and I were talking about how we could make our sex life more enjoyable for both of us. At the end of such a conversation, it always boiled down to her telling me that she wanted to have sex with me for our bond, because it was me, but that she didn't get any satisfaction from it. She wouldn't have a problem if I penetrated her, she just doesn't want me to expect that it would give her an orgasm.
You feel really unmanly when a woman, your own wife, says that to you. She was always careful to find the right words and let me know that we could still have sex together. She didn't know at the time that I was looking at SPH captions and making a virtue out of necessity and slowly coming to terms with not being so well endowed.
Only when she accidentally discovered what I was looking at was so new that she put two and two together and began to envy me, first very gently and then obviously because of my penis. Out of shame, I pretended to find it unpleasant, but she and I knew better. So teasing became normal because of that.
Time passed, but despite the offer to have penetrative sex together more often, she almost never approached me. When I asked my wife if we wanted to have sex, she usually refused because it wouldn't be right. Alternatively, I was always allowed to masturbate on and at her feet.
I'm looking to talk to her about that. It was very uncomfortable for me because I knew that she wasn't having fun but I found a relationship without sex to be abnormal. It was almost no longer about having sex but about the fact that it still happened so rarely and without her own initiative. It was very frustrating for both sides.
In my head, the thought of simply giving up sex completely so as not to have any more arguments in what was otherwise a great relationship kept coming to mind. But the thought was quickly wiped away again and again by the thought that it couldn't be possible not to have sex for the rest of his life. It was a back and forth and I didn't know the pussyfree lifestyle until then. I only became aware of it through sex captions.
The cycle of no sex but only masturbation, arguments about sex, my desire for peace and a nice remaining relationship, and the arousing captions drove me further and further down the rabbit hole. So deep until I tried to talk to my wife again.
In the end, we talked again about everything we had already talked about several times, only in a coherent and more in-depth way. My penis size, my premature ejaculation, my fetishes, everything. I conveyed to her that I only wanted the best for her and that I could now come to terms with not having sex.
She wanted to know more about what I meant by that. I told her that for me, after all the conversations and honest statements, sex triggers a strong pressure to perform. I feel anxious at the thought of sex and never being able to achieve what would satisfy her sexually vaginally. I also explained to her that I understand her.
In the course of the conversation, our future and current sex life crystallized. I offered to only have vaginal sex with her if she wanted me to, as long as I got a hand job more often than that and I was allowed to masturbate on and at her feet several times a week. She couldn't believe I was offering her this. But I assured her that I was serious. She accepted the suggestion with relief, as long as it was really okay with me.
She didn't know that this also took a burden off me. Yes, I love vaginal sex. But I thought about my four ex-girlfriends and my wife, about their sex lives and suddenly everything made sense. I can only satisfy a woman with my mouth and fingers. But for some women that is not enough. I have accepted that I cannot perform as desired sexually. Thanks to the pussyfree lifestyle, I now have the feeling that I no longer have to endure this.
We then made further side agreements. So it's completely okay for her (but it was unspoken before) if I masturbated to porn every day. The fact that we do porn together every now and then would also be something that would support her. But one thing still remains unclear.
We have now found a solution for me that we can both now deal with. I still have my satisfaction, just not through penis in vagina sex. But my wife should also experience her satisfaction. I told her again about my cuckold fantasies and explained to her the advantages (she could look for a man with a significantly larger penis).
We have had many conversations. Nothing has happened so far. She masturbates herself with vibrators and dildos or lets me finger and lick her vagina. I'm very sorry for not having a fulfilling sex life for her. On the other hand, I'm happy to finally have less stress about sex and still have regular orgasms.
We've had sex about 5-6 times in the last 3 years. Last year we only had sex twice and that was only because she felt sorry for me. It feels completely crazy to have sex with your wife knowing this. It's not out of the question that I might not have sex at all this year. I never thought it would, but it feels good now, very good. I no longer have any pressure to perform, we no longer have arguments in the relationship about sex and I know that she only does what she enjoys sexually with me.
I hope I have given you a realistic and good insight into what pussyfree means in my life.
I'm in my late 30s, married and live pussyfree with exceptions. Until a few years ago, I never thought I would ever be able to live pussyfree or even start to like it. I'll tell you something about my sexual career and how it gradually led to my pussyfree life.
In general, I have always really enjoyed having sex. I wanted to do it every day, preferably several times if possible. Unfortunately, the women didn't want sex as often as I did. For this reason began to marturbate daily. Not just about porn, actually also in the classic way through hot thoughts and scenarios that I imagined.
I discovered, I suspected it before but couldn't put it into words, that I have a foot fetish. My thoughts about sex often no longer just revolved around the penetrative act but rather about interacting with a woman's feet. Nevertheless, I still wanted sex and wanted to ejaculate inside a woman.
I had a total of four girlfriends before I married my current wife. In retrospect it turned out that my four girlfriends, I'll talk about my wife later, probably didn't have a fulfilling sex life with me. But I myself was satisfied and thought that I was a good lover who could really please a woman in bed.
All four of my friends either mentioned that their ex-boyfriends were better hung or that my penis was fine but seemed a little smaller than average. Never expressed in a hurtful tone, but still somehow a little disappointed. So a lot of sex quickly turned into very little sex. Headaches, stomach aches, too much stress, at some point there were noticeably frequent excuses as to why the four friends didn't want to have sex.
A friend of mine also cheated on me at least twice and had sex with a strange man. The same girlfriend who had been having sex with me for a long time but didn't feel like having sex. It was only years after I was married to my wife that I gradually realized the reason or reasons.
I have been married to my wife for more than 10 years. She is very sweet, but knows what she wants and what she doesn't want and can now communicate that very well. In the beginning, like every couple, we had sex several times a week. This was standard but it was enough. Over the years we opened up more and more and also talked about other sexual preferences.
If you really think about it, I just opened myself up. My wife doesn't have any special fetishes. I love that I adore her feet so much, that's it. She probably only likes standard, at least with me. Standard is normal vaginal sex and oral sex.
I, on the other hand, confessed to her more and more over the course of our relationship. At the beginning it was very difficult for me to talk about my fetishes. But my wife has gradually taken away my fears about this. I know that she can separate the normal part of me from the sexual part of me and not judge me.
What my wife knows about me sexually is a lot and also unusual. We talked a lot, I showed her pictures and videos. She may not know every nuance and depth, but she reveals more than I ever thought I would reveal.
An excerpt:
* She knows that I have strong cuckold desires
* She knows that I like to wear women's underwear
* She knows that I find penises extremely arousing
* She knows that I find interracial sex, big black cocks, absolutely hot
* She knows that feet are my favorite part of a woman's body
* She knows that I am very sexually submissive
* She knows that I like golden showers
* She knows that I like to penetrate shoes
* She knows that I...
When my wife and I had sex less and less after 1-2 years of relationship, at first only several times a month, later only several times a year, I didn't think anything of it. I thought it was a normal development, you read it every now and then. But that wasn't enough for me and so I often asked my wife about sex. We had a lot of arguments about it for years.
When I knew my wife wouldn't feel like having sex today, I masturbated. I saw this as a good option to not burden her with my sex drive even though I just wanted something natural. As a result, the disputes became few, but they remain. Until she said something to me a few years ago.
We often talked about the reason for not having enough sex, but we never managed to find a common reason. We blamed it on the pill, we blamed it on previous events with her, we blamed it on stress for her. But we never blamed it on me. Until she told me that she just didn't really feel my penis.
I paused for a moment and thought she was just teasing me. But she was serious, she said that she doesn't feel my penetration. She knows there is something inside her but it doesn't trigger any excitement in her. That was quite a slap in the face, I had a pretty big ego sexually. I had four friends who never said sex was bad, but at some point they just didn't want that much anymore.
Unfortunately, that wasn't the only thing. She also told me that I also ejaculate too quickly. To be honest, I never paid attention to it and thought my time was normal. We talked really deeply about it, including how she didn't want to hurt my feelings and she really thought it was her. I didn't really want to believe that, even though I somehow knew that we had now found the reason(s) for the rare sex.
She told me that I was the only man with whom she felt little or nothing during vaginal sex. She never had any problems with vaginal orgasms before me and she always felt the penetration intensely. She also has no problems with sex toys that she inserts into herself.
That was really hard to hear. But it was just as hard to hear when it came to the length of sex. She sometimes counted or looked at the clock before and after. For years, sex never lasted more than a minute. It doesn't matter how we have sex. Even though it was cruel to hear in the moment, it was honest.
But there was an advantage in the matter as to why I didn't fall into a deep depression. This advantage was my submissive tendencies. After the conversation, I asked reputable sites what could be done better in such a situation. I also read tons of reports from other men, women and couples.
Something has also changed in my porn consumption. Before that I only looked at captions about my fetishes. I always skipped SPH caps, I didn't identify with them and couldn't do anything with them despite my submissive tendencies. Out of curiosity, I started looking at SPH captions.
The more I looked at it and realized that the penises there were often my size, the more my mind jumped. I imagined other women, my wife, would say these words to me. It started to excite me. However, I was still looking for solutions to be able to have more sex with my wife again.
My wife and I were talking about how we could make our sex life more enjoyable for both of us. At the end of such a conversation, it always boiled down to her telling me that she wanted to have sex with me for our bond, because it was me, but that she didn't get any satisfaction from it. She wouldn't have a problem if I penetrated her, she just doesn't want me to expect that it would give her an orgasm.
You feel really unmanly when a woman, your own wife, says that to you. She was always careful to find the right words and let me know that we could still have sex together. She didn't know at the time that I was looking at SPH captions and making a virtue out of necessity and slowly coming to terms with not being so well endowed.
Only when she accidentally discovered what I was looking at was so new that she put two and two together and began to envy me, first very gently and then obviously because of my penis. Out of shame, I pretended to find it unpleasant, but she and I knew better. So teasing became normal because of that.
Time passed, but despite the offer to have penetrative sex together more often, she almost never approached me. When I asked my wife if we wanted to have sex, she usually refused because it wouldn't be right. Alternatively, I was always allowed to masturbate on and at her feet.
I'm looking to talk to her about that. It was very uncomfortable for me because I knew that she wasn't having fun but I found a relationship without sex to be abnormal. It was almost no longer about having sex but about the fact that it still happened so rarely and without her own initiative. It was very frustrating for both sides.
In my head, the thought of simply giving up sex completely so as not to have any more arguments in what was otherwise a great relationship kept coming to mind. But the thought was quickly wiped away again and again by the thought that it couldn't be possible not to have sex for the rest of his life. It was a back and forth and I didn't know the pussyfree lifestyle until then. I only became aware of it through sex captions.
The cycle of no sex but only masturbation, arguments about sex, my desire for peace and a nice remaining relationship, and the arousing captions drove me further and further down the rabbit hole. So deep until I tried to talk to my wife again.
In the end, we talked again about everything we had already talked about several times, only in a coherent and more in-depth way. My penis size, my premature ejaculation, my fetishes, everything. I conveyed to her that I only wanted the best for her and that I could now come to terms with not having sex.
She wanted to know more about what I meant by that. I told her that for me, after all the conversations and honest statements, sex triggers a strong pressure to perform. I feel anxious at the thought of sex and never being able to achieve what would satisfy her sexually vaginally. I also explained to her that I understand her.
In the course of the conversation, our future and current sex life crystallized. I offered to only have vaginal sex with her if she wanted me to, as long as I got a hand job more often than that and I was allowed to masturbate on and at her feet several times a week. She couldn't believe I was offering her this. But I assured her that I was serious. She accepted the suggestion with relief, as long as it was really okay with me.
She didn't know that this also took a burden off me. Yes, I love vaginal sex. But I thought about my four ex-girlfriends and my wife, about their sex lives and suddenly everything made sense. I can only satisfy a woman with my mouth and fingers. But for some women that is not enough. I have accepted that I cannot perform as desired sexually. Thanks to the pussyfree lifestyle, I now have the feeling that I no longer have to endure this.
We then made further side agreements. So it's completely okay for her (but it was unspoken before) if I masturbated to porn every day. The fact that we do porn together every now and then would also be something that would support her. But one thing still remains unclear.
We have now found a solution for me that we can both now deal with. I still have my satisfaction, just not through penis in vagina sex. But my wife should also experience her satisfaction. I told her again about my cuckold fantasies and explained to her the advantages (she could look for a man with a significantly larger penis).
We have had many conversations. Nothing has happened so far. She masturbates herself with vibrators and dildos or lets me finger and lick her vagina. I'm very sorry for not having a fulfilling sex life for her. On the other hand, I'm happy to finally have less stress about sex and still have regular orgasms.
We've had sex about 5-6 times in the last 3 years. Last year we only had sex twice and that was only because she felt sorry for me. It feels completely crazy to have sex with your wife knowing this. It's not out of the question that I might not have sex at all this year. I never thought it would, but it feels good now, very good. I no longer have any pressure to perform, we no longer have arguments in the relationship about sex and I know that she only does what she enjoys sexually with me.
I hope I have given you a realistic and good insight into what pussyfree means in my life.
