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Working with the reader's sexuality

Discussion in 'Author's Den' started by Lutheran Maid, Jan 4, 2018.

  1. Lutheran Maid

    Lutheran Maid Well-Known Member Author!

    A little trip through my recent story ratings reveal that I score a lot of fives (thank you very much) and some ones too (fair game). It's a famine or feast thing and I think that's worth pondering on. It's a personal theory (tell me if I'm wrong), but I believe that within the website as well as the generally curious there are two distinct groups of folk who have quite different takes on cuckold sex. One group are sincerely into female dominance, the woman bitching her man and hooking up with an equally dominant lover. The second group are those who see cuckold sex much more in voyeuristic terms, as play time where the woman performs with another man in front of her husband. In the latter group ideas about the woman being in control, being a real bitch, are absent, save perhaps for acting the complete slut with the stud. There is no real 'assault' on the husband's status. If that's true, then stories written for one group audience will have little or no appeal for the other. It won't register with them. Above and beyond whether story themes are repetitive (and they certainly can be) the alternative scenario simply won't appeal. Where does that lead then? I suppose I'm saying that it helps the author to receive comments about why you rate something high or low. The more you feel able to share, the better they can write to meet different tastes, although writers certainly write to express what turns them on too. One of the real benefits of this blog is that it helps people clarify their sexual interests, women and men alike. Call it porn, call it what you will, the reality is that we have a myriad different adult consensual sexual orientations and the better we understand them the better we may be at respecting ourselves. Thank you Darkwanderer.
     
  2. Tom Collins

    Tom Collins Member Member

    thank you for the opportunity to express some thoughts on this. I find the most erotic scenarios to be those where the wife's bull is the one person in charge, of both hubby and wife. While it is exciting to see wives turned into bitches who support and even lead the degradation of the hubby, I personally enjoy more where the females are not domme to their spouses but the bull is totally in charge and in fact adds to the couple's subjugation by training the hubby to serve cock too. That said, the difference is only a matter of degree - i.e. it is not an either/or thing for me, just a slight preference for the female to be not in charge of anything, especially if she is slowly turned from a prim and proper miss into a cock-loving slut.
     
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  3. AlfonsoAnon

    AlfonsoAnon Member Member

    Thats probably more or less correct. At least on this site. On Literotica, any cuckold story gets downvoted automatically by people pretty much because its a cuckold story. But I doubt many would be doing that here.
     
  4. 3ballz

    3ballz Member Member

    I have a slightly different view from Tom Collins preference. I very much prefer the wife/girlfriend to play a prominent role in subjugating and humiliating the cuckold. This could be complicit with or absence of the Bull. The woman initially identifying their man as weak and submissive, then exploiting the situation for her own means builds tension before, during and after taking a bull or bulls. The power trip the woman goes on and sometimes stays on is a key factor for me.
     
  5. Tom Collins

    Tom Collins Member Member

    Fair comment 3ballz (and an intriguing nickname!). To each his own I say, but let me just add that i go back and forth depending on my mood. There are times when I crave a story about a bitch who brings her wimp to heel, literally. Variety is the spice of life
     
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  6. AllenJ

    AllenJ Member Member

    I tend to agree with Tom Collins and in my case my tastes and appreciation will move back and forth across the spectrum a bit. The central theme is of course my wife submitting to and taking a bbc lover. A well written cuckold submissive role can enhance that and a really hot theme for me is for the cuckold to become a feminized sissy bbc slut as well. Sometimes extending the bbc ownership across the family is also enjoyable but it depends upon how well written (and perhaps how horny I am). Certainly, I always enjoy the wife (and perhaps family) knowing of and even watching the cuckold's surrender to bbc lust. Not a big fan of scat, hard bdsm, or wet play though I can tolerate that if the rest of the story works for me.
     
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  7. Tom Collins

    Tom Collins Member Member

    AllenJ raises a couple of my personal hot buttons that I had neglected to mention - the cuckold being feminized and the family (and friends) knowing of his subjugation. Thinking further on this, i confess that almost any situation where the hubby loses power in a relationship (as hubby, dad, employee, whatever) and is strippped of his normal masculine role tickles my fancy.
     
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  8. 3ballz

    3ballz Member Member

    I would certainly agree with you Tom that the subjugation, feminization and loss of power for the husband is a big turn on. It's probably more that I like to see the wife being the prominent orchestrator in his demise rather than the bull. However, we are dealing in fine margins and I'm sure you would agree with me that Lutheran Maid's stories are among the finest written.
     
  9. Lutheran Maid

    Lutheran Maid Well-Known Member Author!

    That's a very generous compliment 3baliz, thank you. I'm fascinated by this. Yes because cuckolding turns me on too. Yes because I think it liberating in several regards. It offers the paradox of female empowerment through a more submissive role with a more powerful alpha male. That which seems notionally manipulative, woman used, is transformed, or at least augmented, as she then dominates a weaker male. It offers her the prospect of exploring bitch hood in both it's submissive and its aggressive controlling guises. Much has been made as to why erotic writing appeals to men (? helping them explore their sexuality) but less so to women. I suppose that the literature seems less appealing when it is largely visual, descriptive largely of sexual acts. I believe though that when you write more deeply about the fucking of the mind and with the mind, that there is greater scope to appeal to women too. What if I really did think like that? What would it feel like, mean, to do this to him? Context is important, the relationship, fucking is much more than a grunting act. So I write quite psychologically. I hope that female readers too might enjoy reading the stories. The indulgent submission to a powerful male, the co operation (if not the leadership) in humiliating another man.

    I'm currently preparing a book on this theme, 'Alpha Coupling' which will story at greater length the relationship between a psychological dominant wife, her well educated, suave and powerful black lover and an eclipsed husband. The themes are quite familiar, black breeding, humiliation, a woman transforming how she sees herself and what that then permits. But what a book length story permits is a more gradual and nuanced building of the story and the events of tangled lives. I'm going to publish this via Amazon and whilst such volumes aren't likely to see me or other writers retire on proceeds, I do think that it offers interested readers developments in a better way that sequence stories (part 3,4,5 etc) on a blog.
     
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  10. Tom Collins

    Tom Collins Member Member

    First, I agree totally with 3ballz that Lutheran Maid writes some of the best stories I have ever read - they never fail to make my little dick hard. And Lutheran Maid, I think that is because you dwell so much on what is going on in the minds of the characters. That fits with my belief that the mind is the most powerful sex organ we have. Being male, I had not thought about the concept of female liberation through subjugating her husband, even as she herself becomes submissive to a superior male, but I can see your point and I wonder if female readers pick up on that as well. Whatever, Lutheran Maid please keep doing what you so so well and thank you for the pleasure you provide.
     
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  11. Lutheran Maid

    Lutheran Maid Well-Known Member Author!

    Tom, I think of it this way. Whilst men and women might be predisposed to think of sex in particular gender ways, that which has often been socialised through upbringing, such sexual thinking is not immutable. Men predisposed to submissive behaviour, to a woman, to her man, learn about their sexuality over time. They may wrestle with it because of the stereotypes about how men should be. I can't imagine women not travelling on discoveries of their own. They may be in different directions, but one possible path involves dominating some sorts of men and submitting to others. Irrespective of how a woman feels about it, short of rape or assault, she is the arbiter of choice, she selects who she mates with and to a large degree how. I hope that by reading about this, about the thought and emotion to do with this, she is helped to consider all the possibilities, the ones she will set aside as well as the one she will embrace. That which makes life sense to a submissive male, is made whole, perfect, by a woman ready to dominate. :)
     

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